8 posts tagged “dating”
I've made up my mind and decided not to be age bias, I am now open to dating men under my 26 yr old cuttoff. I could be missing out on a fantastic relationship and not even know it. I spoke with a 36 yr old woman tonight at a friend's party and she is currently dating a 26 yr old. She said something that made me rethink the age thing. So I now open the doors to the younger men. Flock on in!
2 1/2 more weeks to go until my vacation!
I'm down 11 pounds since starting my weight loss journey on May 19th and that means I have dropped 2 pounds for my June Challenge. I'm feeling tired though. I guess I blame my late nights. I'm getting up at 5 am to workout but I am still going top bed between 11:30pm and midnight. I'm still doing my 200 AB workouts in the evening and I still hate them!
School is coming to an end. Had one final today and I have another on Friday.
Tomorrow is my last day at my internship office. There has been no further discussion as far as a summer part-time position. I really hope she asks me.
Dating life still blows and I am in the phase where I am totally fine with that. I am too motivated to drop this weight right now and be the best me that I can. I know eventually I will attract the right man. Even if he turns out to be 7 years younger. I'm attracted to younger men lately and its driving me crazy.
Tonight was my coffee date with Erik. He was attractive, funny, well kept, smart, interesting, kind and pretty open. He reminded me so much of Nicholas Cage.
He talked so much about travel that I am afraid we would feel too differently. It seems he likes the idea of change and I like small changes. When he spoke of traveling he means travel as in, picking up and moving to some new place. I'm not sure if I can accept that type of traveling right now. I like stability and some predictability. Man, I am beginning to sound like an old maid! It would be amazing to just travel and see new places but that's what travel means to me. To visit new and exotic places but then happily return to my home. I really can't see myself up and moving every 4-5 years and Erik speaks of his future in terms of moving to new places every few years.
But is it too soon for me to write him off because he wants to travel? Probably not. Maybe I will change my mind. maybe I won't. Well, now to see if he bothers to ask me out for a 2nd date.
So lastnight I am folding laundry when I hear that I received a text message on my phone. I see a phone number listed that I do not recognize. The text reads "hey". Well anyone under the sun whom has ever had my phone number can simply say "hey". This is how this text message session went. For simplicity sake the unknown number is going to be referred to as "jerkface".
jerkface: hey
me: I do not recognize this number. Who are you?
jerkface: Brian
me: (after a few minutes of trying to think who the hell Brian is) Oh, do you live in SoCal? Did we talk last summer?
jerkface: Wow, nevermind then lol
me: Oh you're (insert local city) Brian
jerkface: yea
me: you kept my number? why???
jerkface: yea
me: I deleted yours
jerkface: why?
me: You totally blew me off. You stopped calling and messaging me so I moved on.
jerkface: We exchanged messages discussing why I backed off. it wasn't because I didn't like you. We had discussed this
me: No, I never received any messages from you and you never responded to my last myspace message.
jerkface: At your work e-mail? We talked about this back and forth through emails
me: you must have me confused with someone else
jerkface: We went to the movies on thanksgiving
me: You have me mixed up with someone else. We never met.
jerkface: Oh. i'm sorry for bugging you
Seriously, like how dumb do you have to be to completely mix up people in your cell phone?? And how stupid is he to think that some girl is gonna want to talk to him if the last contact she had with him was 2 months ago??? Boys are dumb.....'nuff said.
Tomorrow is my last day of freedom for the next 10 months or so. I start school on Monday and if all goes according to plan, I will graduate in June and be able to land a real job. I'm really looking forward to be able to support myself on my own. I've been a full time student for the past 2 years and I have changed my career plan 3 times. The career path I am heading in is now carved in stone since I got accepted into this 1 year program. New grads make $40K a year. That is nearly double the amount I would be making as a preschool teacher. (I was a preschool teacher at a Montessori School until I had my son 5 years ago.)
Oh how I crave total independence! I've been fortunate to have an ex husband that isn't a total jerk and was very generous as far as the divorce settlement went. I've only been able to be a full time student because of alimony. I don't care what people think about me collecting alimony. If you don't walk in my shoes then mind your own. Bottom line is I couldn't support myself right now if I wanted to. Especially because this program is like a full time job. 9-5 everyday.
But to know that at the end of my graduation, I will finally become independent! Hopefully I will be able to diminish the need for roommates. Not that they are horrible. In fact they are awesome! I just want my home back and my bedroom. (My son is currently sharing the master bedroom with me.) I want my privacy back! All of these small sacrifices will pay off, I just know it.
On to the dating stuff...
So, I haven't really been in the mood to talk to anyone new since past crush left me clueless. There is a new guy that is interested in meeting up for coffee tonight or on Sunday. I have an odd feeling about him. I guess it all started 2 weeks ago when I went to my friend Jen's art showing.
After her show we ate at a place in downtown Redwood City which was right across from the Gallery. I saw a man with a pretty blonde, enter the pub we were eating at, and he looked rather familar to me. Then it clicked that he looked like the man that had messaged me on Plenty of Fish. So when a week went by and I hadn't heard anything from him, I didn't think anything of it. He started messaging me a few nights ago and I had told him I saw a man that looked like him a few weeks back at a pub in Redwood City. he confirmed that was indeed him. Small world! Especially since I live about 40 min away from Redwood City and this man lives an hour away from it.
So that in of itself kinda freaks me out and then through all this messaging he gives me his number to call him when he hasn't even told me his name. Another thing is he has sent on more than one message "I'm not not a murder or rapist or anything". Which of course every sane man would proclaim. Of course I would expect even rapists and murders to say that too!
Yes, he is attractive and he is a teacher (which I love) but something just doesn't feel right. All too often I ignore my gut feeling. Perhaps I shouldn't ignore this one.
Is there a point when you really start to take a deep look at the common denominator and realize "maybe it is me"? I now haven't heard from the guy that's in Oregon since our last conversation in which he was encouraging me when I was upset a few nights ago.
Here is the last of our conversation. I can see nothing that indicated the possibility of offending him or turning him off.
Me: Yea I don't care for LA much. 2 hours in traffic to travel 20 miles is ridiculous. lol Well, I should head to bed now. My son has to be at school early. Thanks for encouraging me and chatting with me after a rough night. I'll chat with you tomorrow, perhaps. :)
Him: Anytime miss ladyyyy, u take care and dont forget to pray, and remember Pray for what u dont have!, not for what u already have!.....smiles.....huG sleePtight
Maybe I am too boring, too silly, too fat, not pretty enough, too spiritual, not spiritual enough, my hair is too curly, my eyes are too brown. Whatever the reason, I'm obviously failing horribly at locking someone in on me. At least locking in the type I am attracted to.
I'm approaching my threshold of the not interested in dating phase. This phase usually occurs after 1-2 bad dates. When I take my break it's usually a period of 4-6 months. Of course the last break was nearly 8 months. I'm just getting so tired of this.
My son started at a new school today after beginning kindergarten 2 weeks ago at another school.I didn't have to worry about him getting upset. He was excited about going to a new school. Already his classroom makes me feel better about having him attend a new school. The classroom has windows. His other class had no windows.
I'm really into
VH1's The Pick Up Artist. I watched it tonight and was so glad when Pradeep got sent home. I disliked him since the first episode. He's a real jerk! He slapped Joe tonight and he couldn't even apologize and mean it. He's too prideful.I was browsing some of my favorite blogs here and stumbled upon a blog that had a link Don't date him girl. Naturally I was overwhelmed with curiosity so I checked out the site. Basically it's a website in which you can post and publicly humiliate or "warn" others about a person you dated or were involved with. I read a few profiles in which the revengeful dater accused the person of having STDs. Some other allegations were cheating, being married, lying, not paying child support. The people that post the profiles also post private information about the accused such as cell phone numbers, email addresses and of course their photos to match.
I can see how some of this can benefit you from avoiding scum that exists in every dating pool but at the same time, the people posting the information could be dead wrong and just hurt because the relationship ended.
What do you think of a resource like this? Oh and it's not just for women. Men and women are on the website.
I have been single for nearly 2 1/2 years. Sure I date, but no one has given me that "this guy could be my next boyfriend" feeling. I have come to realize what has been happening with my dating. I jinx them! Yup, that's right, I jinx the relationship before it can progress. How do I do this you might be asking?! Well it's simple really. After only a few message exchanges or a phone conversation, usually after I feel a connection to the guy, I will start to daydream about being his girlfriend or even worse; being his wife. I will start the stupid grade school girlie stuff Mrs. Sara Hallet. The minute the last name clashes with my first name or has only an ok ring to it, I will start to feel less interested in the guy.
Even worse is if I think he has an odd first name. I actually had a guy interested in me a few months ago who's name was Spinner. I kid you not, his real name was Spinner. I thought it was a joke because he happened to be a disc jockey, but no, he really was named Spinner by his parents. Then recently there was a man named Stewart. He was a nice guy but just no overall connection. but maybe it had to do more with the fact that his last name happened to be the middle name of my ex. (Which happens to be a very rare name). There was no way I was going to sport that last name as my married name....ever!
Back to my jinxing. Just about anytime a man has caught my eye and a part of my heart I will start to tell myself "what if he is the one?" Another mistake I make is I mention him too soon to friends or family, only to discover the date was a complete let down.
So I am going to take on a new approach. Don't say a word! I will not tell anyone about this "great guy" I am meeting soon etc. I certainly won't be envisioning him being my man! Nope, I am just gonna do the exact opposite and assume he is NOT it and that it will be a complete let down.
